Dear Boyfriend,

I have some questions to ask you……

What are we doing?

Do you love me?

I think about you all the time, do you think about me?

You are a priority in my life, am I one in yours?

Does your family, friends, or co-workers know about me?

Sometimes I feel like you are pulling away, are you?

I am easy to talk to, why don’t you communicate with me?

Do you realize I would do anything for you?

Do you realize I am a good woman?

I do not want to lose you, are you afraid of losing me?

We are in this together, right?

Are you willing to fight for this relationship? I am.

Boyfriend, love of my life, can you help me understand our relationship? Ease my mind and let me know where I stand with you?

I used to have these questions in the back of my mind. There was a part of me that did not want to know the answers. I guess I was too scared of his reaction. What if he gets mad? What if he does not want me the same way I want him? What if he says something that hurts my feelings? So I never asked. Honestly, I should already know how he feels about me. If I have to ask, guess, or assume, then maybe he was not the man for me.  His actions should tell me he loves me, and our conversations should ensure me he wants a future. I understand that no relationship is perfect. There will be disagreements, arguments, and possibly misunderstandings, but if I knew we were in an official relationship, where both parties really loved each other and could not see ourselves with anybody else, the relationship is worth fighting for.

There are some women (not all) that will put 100% into a relationship, thinking they finally found the one to build a future with, only to find out, he was not on the same page. Before the relationship goes any further make sure both parties are on the same page. Now there are some relationships where there is no commitment, both parties just want to have a good time and date other people. If that is not what you want, make it clear that you want something serious. The one mistake I made when I was younger, was not including God in my relationships. God will guide you in the right direction. Pray that He opens your eyes and show you if the man you are with is the one for you. Do not waste time, energy, affection, and love on the wrong person. Do not block your blessings because you are scared of being alone. God is trying to tell you something about your relationship, make sure you listen.