Why Torment Yourself?

It’s a good feeling after a painful breakup for the only man you saw a future with comes back in your life. You didn’t see it coming, you never thought you would talk or see him again. Deep down inside you’re happy, this is what you wanted. This is what you’ve been hoping would happen, getting back with your ex. You don’t have to worry about dating, starting all over with someone else, you are finally with the man you couldn’t stop thinking about. Life is great again. Wrong. I thought my ex coming back into my life would make me happy again. After the breakup, all I did was think about him. I started to blame myself for the breakup and told myself if I had done things differently we would still be together. I didn’t realize I was beating myself up for something that wasn’t 100% my fault. I’m not playing the victim. I can own up to the things I did wrong in the relationship, but the breakup wasn’t all my fault. But that’s what I believed. He made me feel like I was difficult. I was hard to love. Everything was always my fault. No matter what I did he was never ever satisfied, so I would try hard to be the girlfriend he wanted me to be just to make him happy. It didn’t matter. The relationship still ended. As I have said before the breakup took a toll on me. I prayed and asked God to give me the strength to finally let him go. It took a couple of years of healing and I had finally moved on. All it took was one text and I allowed him back in my life. Two years of healing went down the drain. I had to learn my lesson the hard way once again.

God has already showed you it didn’t work in the past and you didn’t listen, so now He will take it to the next level and show you again the relationship will not work. Now don’t get me wrong I’m not saying getting back with your ex will lead to another breakup. Some relationships turn into something serious, even marriage. However, that is not the case in every relationship. He may come off in the beginning as a changed man (they all do) by texting and calling you more, planning date nights, and even showering with gifts. That’s all temporary.

Don’t allow him to pull you back in with his words, gifts, and touch. Satan knows your weakness and your weakness is him. I understand you have missed him. You have cried yourself to sleep, hoping, and wishing that you guys will get back together. When it happens, you work so hard to make the relationship work this time around. However, after a while you start to notice old habits are coming back, but you’re ecstatic that he is back in your life. You don’t want to be hurt again and have the feeling of regret so you ignore the signs and continue to make it work because you love him.

Don’t beat yourself up for getting back with your ex. You will probably give him a second, third, or fourth chance. You can’t help who you love. If it’s worth it go for it, but ask yourself, do you want to continue going back to the person who continues to hurt you? There is a reason God allowed him to walk out of your life. When God shows you believe it.